Finding love after the 30s begin to get more complicated and when I say love I’m talking about true love, the one that makes you shaking when you look into his eyes, that makes you feel like the world is paralyzed when you are with him, that you forget any problem. I am not talking about the love or affection we sometimes feel for someone with whom we share pleasant moments. That love is also acceptable and totally respectable as long as both people are happy but today I want to talk about real love, the one I described before.
I am a very emotional and passionate person (a real pisces). Did I say I am? Well, I have to rectify, I used to be a very emotional and passionate person, when I fell in love I did it in full and I gave 100% without doubt. Pisces we do not take this from love like joke, when we love … we love to infinity and beyond, hehe. But as I said, I used to be like that, but the last year I feel as if my heart had gone from being a flame to an ice cube :O I do not know if it could be because of the change of the horoscope that they say about 30s your personality is changing towards your ascending horoscope and maybe I’m not longer represent so much with pisces or maybe it’s because of the two relationships that did not go forward or the experiences or maybe it is a set of everything.
Most of us have felt true love at least once, I was fortunate enough to live it twice. But what happens when we start the decade of the 30s without a couple. Women begin to feel the pressure of difficulty and possible problems of having children after an age. In addition to that many we have not yet established our professional career. Before women used to have children younger because they did not used to study and work in qualified positions but nowadays most of us go to university and we struggle to reach the professional position we dream with and takes us time until we achieve it. How do we want to find love if we do not give it dedication? We are so concentrated in our professional career that we neglect relationships and if we don’t give we don’t receive. As Louise Hay says: “What we receive from the outside is what we sent before”. Her book “You can heal your life” helped me a lot and practicing what she says I realized that the first step to receive love is to give it. If the same thing happened to you, think why are you not so emotional anymore. Maybe there’s something inside you that needs to be heal, some past experience maybe.
What do you think is the cause that you got in the 30s and you are not in love? Something that I have also noticed is that we become more demanding, from the experiences we have experienced or perhaps because we are becoming “older” and it gives us more “laziness” to deal with the differences that arise. But the true is that we won’t find someone perfect, we all have flaws and we must find someone with whom we are happy with their defects and virtues (both) and be able to adap to each other, accepting the imperfections. Don’t look for someone that complements you because you should be complete by yourself, find someone who balances you.
Every idea we think create our future, so if you think “I will not find a partner, no one is worth it” how are you going to fall in love if you do not believe in love? I have decided to believe that love can still be found in the most unexpected way, I am tired of hearing that in this age without tinder, social networks is totally impossible to find love. Personally I have not found it because I have been focused on my career and I have completely neglected the emotional area and I do not mean that I have not gone looking for phone numbers and asking friends to introduce me to someone, I am talking about looking after my beliefs about love, as I said before, I wasn’t giving love, and I did not believe in it. In this time I have felt like being in a market among several hunters where anyone comes to you searching for the one that better fits with his ideals and if both get well you accepted each others to give you company, with affection but without pure love. I do not think it is difficult to find it in a natural way as it used to, without looking for it, without APPs or websites. I think the point is not that this is the only way today, the problem is in what we believe. What we believe about ourselves and life becomes our truth, our subconscious accepts whatever we decide to believe and the Universe fully supports us in everything we decide to think and believe. Each one creates their experiences with what they think and what they feel, the things that we think are creating our future. If you would like to fall in love by chance, start by believing that it can happen and then open your heart, give love, give affection, hugs, kisses to those people who are important and special in your life and be patient, everything comes to you in the right moment.
And I end up with a Japanese legend The red thread that says: “An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but will never break.